In addition to adding to the above sensations, using your hands will also keep your mouth from getting tired. Question: Why use *just* your mouth when you’ve got hands that could help you hold, rub, squeeze, stroke, circle, and penetrate your partner? “Once you find two or three moves that your partner likes, stick to those,” she says. Once you find something your partner(s) like, be consistentĬonsistency, says Stewart, is key to climax.

When I do one that you like, will you tell me?”

“I’m going to try a few different speeds with my tongue.“Do you like it better when I flick or suck?”.“So spend some time exploring what your partner likes,” she says.Ĭommunicate with your partner along the way, giving them the opportunity to tell you what they like. “The mouth and tongue can do so many things that our genitals can’t do… lick, suck, blow, flick, nip, and bite, to name just a few,” says erotic educator Taylor Sparks, founder of Organic Loven, one of the largest BIPOC-owned online intimacy shops. So before you start licking, “take a moment to find the right position for both of your bodies to open up and relax into your pleasure,” she suggests. “If you’re positioned in a way that creates discomfort, it will inhibit your ability to feel pleasure,” says White. It’s not just your neck that should be comfy - it’s your whole bod. So if you’re on the bottom, protect your neck by supporting it with a rolled shirt, pillow, or other positioning tools. Protect your neckĪre you gonna notice paralysis from 69-ing? Probably not.īut (!) if your neck is in a suboptimal position for a long while, it is possible to tweak a muscle, pinch a nerve, or cramp up. You bet your cute butt there is! Experiment with who’s on top and who’s on bottomĭo you and your partner basically have an Unofficial 69 Position - meaning one of you is always top and one of you is always on the bottom? If so, invert the position!ĭoing so will allow you each to explore each other’s genitals from a new angle, potentially introducing you to new hot spots.

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